Easter & A New Grocery

Just the fact that I'm excited over a new grocery COOP opening by one of our neighborhood mosques says something, don't you think? It means I don't have to take a taxi to and from the grocery ($10) to buy my 2-3 gallons of milk ($6/gal) when Robert is unavailable (often.) It also means, I have an excuse to get out, maybe meet a few more neighbors, and have easy access to the things I use most often: milk, fresh herbs, flat bread, fresh feta cheese, etc.


Robert & I walked over tonight and it was just at the conclusion of evening prayers. The men were streaming out of the mosque, slipping into their shoes, and slipping off into the night on their cellphones, sons by their side, robes flowing in the sandy air. I changed out of my shorts & covered up my t-shirt that says "US Army" before leaving the house; "standing out" is what we do best, even when modestly dressed. I am usually oblivious, but Molly gets a lot of unwanted attention when she is out and about. Note to self this week: if she must walk to the embassy, I go with her. (She got 2 offers for rides last time)


We strolled each isle to see what was stocked in this larger-than-CircleK shop. Special K cereal, Jolly Green Giant vegetables...they must know there are expats in the mix of this community! Meat & even a small selection of fresh vegetables was a welcome site. The toiletries were well priced and will make shopping for my Filipino maids easy.


We started a new class at the embassy last week; on Monday night we picked up the first 12 rugs which were completed. It was interesting to see where these women were at mentally, socially, compared to our group who we spent 2 months with. There was so much more synergy after having taught them the 7 habits & built a sense of team in the last group. They had seemed to get beyond the hoarding mentality (with the resources) and were open and participating. This new group reminds us of how far we came with the others. The number scooted up from the limit of 30, to 40 for the first night but we let it slip since many of them will leave before finishing. There was not enough table space, but we resolved that by purchasing 3 new 8 foot tables last night. We will try to pay for them out of donations rather than profits from the crafts. Sales in my immediate circles have been highly profitable; now I must find new venues.


Kids are on spring break this week, nice to sleep in a bit and have them around. We've braved the beach south of here at the Hilton and no one got sick from swimming in the Gulf! Some moms think I'm nuts, but I believe in diffusion! The sewage spills were much further north and it must be VERY diluted by the time it reached the Hilton! I have a friend who won't even eat anything grown in Kuwait for fear of what's in the soil, er sand? I've not really seen any soil here...I can't live like that!


We were fortunate to have the kids off during Easter week; Sunday was a school day for many. Robert got the day off but it was not a holiday. We tried to make it special in our home as the rest of the country was clueless what we were celebrating. Thursday evening just our family had a Christian Seder meal together and was warmed by this tradition with all it's meaning. Saturday, Emily's friend came over who has a Buddhist mom and a no-faith dad. She wanted to experience Easter with us and seeing it through her eyes made it even more special. We watched The Passion of Christ Sat. evening & Tonya & I cried through that. Sunday am the kids all did the scripture treasure hunt I'd prepared & eventually found their Easter baskets. Then we examined the 4 resurrection accounts and extracted so much meaning from the different perspectives as we charted what was the same and different. In the afternoon, we painted eggs and chatted with more friends who were arriving. By dinner there were 13 of us to enjoy ham & lamb with all the trimmings. It was nice to have Molly's help in the kitchen & with baking...I'm gonna miss that! Emily folded our dinner napkins into cute little rabbits except for Harvey's: he got a dead chicken which she learned to make from a waiter in Cairo:) Our guests included Tonya, a AF officer away from home, our Canadian friends, and 3 teachers; one was on his way back to Kabul where he teaches English. After dinner, we celebrated with a rousing "See What A Morning" while Ethan accompanied us on his sax, followed by "In Christ Alone." Singing at the table was a shock to Tonya but she survived Easter with the Spesserts and has been home reading through the New Testament from her Easter basket! It was such a joy to share this day with such delightful people.

Rags To Riches!

March 23, 2010

After several setbacks with this project, I'm basking in a moment of success. We knew we were making a difference with many women in terms of their own personal growth and confidence, we knew they were improving the quality of their product, what we didn't know FOR SURE was: will these sell well??? I took 22 rugs to my Bible study group of about 50 women today, sold 11 of them and the girls made $426.00 of PURE PROFIT!!! Oh, minus a box of paper clips to be exact:) We sold some rugs and some jewelry on the night of the exhibit & graduation (see photos) and now we are at over $600.00 sales. I'm so thankful for this God inspired idea which looks to benefit these women so much. Thankful too for youtube where I learned to make them myself! I'm developing friendships with several tailors, two of the Pakistani, who are so much a part of this too. They save their fabric remnants and are now welcoming me with big smiles when I show up to collect the trash bags full. They work long, hard, hours in tiny shops where the low ceiling supports another floor crammed full of sewing machines & men bowed over them. They seem to be so happy to help someone a few steps below them on the ladder.

Our "graduation" celebration was a sweet time. It was lovely to see the work displayed all over the room and to have guests come and share in their success. There was confusion of who actually got the gold embossed certificates, signed by the labor attache. These documents are highly coveted and proudly embraced by this culture it seems. We wanted them to be meaningful, but then it was hard to draw the line of who could graduate...if they missed one class, two classes? This time we have made a contract for them to sign up front that states requirements for graduation, expected work ethics (don't keep or give away what you have made:) and guidelines for managing their resources. We ALL learned a lot this first go 'round!

The top photo is me with Yoli, the welfare officer with the impossible job. She works unbelievable hours and always seems very stressed and rushed. She came to the event and stayed after the ceremony for picture taking and ended up laughing & goofing off with the "wards" and it was such a fun evening in a place so filled with sad stories. She said she felt no stress at all that night.

The fact that all their fabric had to be thrown out due to an infectious skin condition of one lady, one of the dear ladies had to go to jail in order to get to return home instead of her agency buying her a plane ticket, quarrels over who would get the limited fabric when I began to bring more, "loss" of jeans taken to them to make purses, and missing jewelry making supplies....we have much more to celebrate than be discouraged over! I pray God will give us the ability to "seek first to understand before seeking to be understood" just as we are teaching them.

Rugs & Rich Rewards

I just finished condensing the many pages of feedback our students at the shelter wrote for us. All but 3 wrote in English which was perfectly understandable although it is their second language. I am overwhelmed with joy at what God is doing here in the midst of such dire circumstances. It is what I hoped for, but I'm not sure my faith was great enough to yeild this. After Wednesday, we will be ready to start selling the products. I pray they will be enthusiastically received. The photo is of some of the rugs scattered across my floor where I've been steaming & tagging them today. When we went this week for the last class of this session, they proudly took me to a room which the managers had emptied out just for them to work in! This is a miracle, as space here is SO tight. They were wall to wall women and rugs with the fabric all piled in a corner. The gals making jewelry had their beads all hung up from a hat rack they found and it was beautifully displayed. I'll put up more pictures soon; most were not on my camera. Here is what they had to say:

“On my first few days here, life is very boring, but when I learned to make rugs, I turned those days fruitful and make myself productive to my fellow wards by teaching them the skill, instead of wasting my time gossiping.”

“The 7 Habits very important for all the housemaids here in OWWA because they help us forget some of our problems and they teach us to do the things that no need for money, like how to make the rugs.”

“It makes us more proficient upon solving and tackling the obstacles that may come to our lives. Now, we’re confident enough to face and encounter everything that lies ahead.”

“I’ve realized that God is good for He bring these people in our lives, to have hope all the time despite of all the trials we encounter each day.”

“With this course we enjoy the days here in POLO, hope it will continue to the next generation.”

“I’m so happy that they teach us how to be strong and a fighter to our lives. They also teach us to be more creative and to think more of our future, by teaching how to make bags, using the rules, also making jewelry using papers.”

“In this rug making course we don’t have work this can help me to earn money because my age there is no available work. Through this rug making I make and sell to help my family.”

“It can help me earn my way of living. I can earn money to get extra income, in making rugs, jewelry. What I have learn I teach then other friends, to share my knowledge. I am very happy cause now I return back to my nation, I’m not afraid cause I have ideas how to earn money by using my ability.”

“I am very eager to know something idea from somebody, because I want to learn more as what they learn to add my talent. In this way I can move on to not working as domestic helper. I want to make a small business.”

“We planning to put a business with my friends. We are very lucky to learn this skill because this is a good and easy job. Thank You.”

Desert Campout

February 27, 2010

So, a Hindi, a Buddhist, a Mormon & two Christians all came together for a party in a Muslim country...Sounds like a joke waiting for a punch line? No, it's just Emily's 16th Birthday celebration in the Kuwaiti desert, just shy of the Iraqi border off the I80 where troops pass back & forth. There was even a big sign on the road as we neared the border "God Bless the Troops."

I can't wait to see what God is preparing my kids for when I see the paths he leads them through. Emily's girlfriends were discussing spiritual matters in the wee hours of the night under a sandy, moon dusted night in the Gulf, while a watchful Bangladeshi Guard secured our campsite. Emily has delighted in rather "unusual" birthday parties from the age of 4 when she had a pretend wedding party. This year, she longed to experience the Bedouin-ish lifestyle of desert camping which is a huge part of Kuwait culture from Nov-Mar each year. Thousands of otherwise sane people, abandon beautiful villas for tent cities that resemble refuge camps. This "getting back to nature" makes us laugh--how much "nature" is their when all you see for miles is sand??? However, just outside the city in every direction the desert is dotted with camps; each surrounded by tires "planted" vertically in the sand to mark off individual dwellings.

One of Robert's colleagues heard that we were having a hard time finding a place to rent and offered his family camp over the Prophets Birthday when many people flock south to Mecca, Saudi Arabia. This friend is one of 9 brothers who share a camp site off the road to Baghdad. The fully equipped site had many tents; one large one with a squat toilet attached, a kitchen with running water and a generator with lights strung from tent to tent. Emily's girlfriends arrived for the sleepover full of excitement for the unknown. She & Ethan had already found a carcass of a 15 inch poisonous lizard in the sand. While "sledding" down some sand dunes in the area, they discovered a scorpion with a golden, translucent body known to be highly poisonous here...I tried not to think about how easily the girls could have been bitten as they carried a piece of abandoned cardboard they planned to use for a sled, only to discover they had transported the scorpion as well. We have since discovered that the sandy, dusty weather brings them out.

Other "entertainment" included a massive foam & silly string fight, in keeping with the spirit of liberation and National Days: Feb 25-26. These back-to-back holidays celebrate Kuwait's Independence from Britain and it's liberation from Iraq. This occasion has a reputation for rowdiness, to put it mildly. Vandalism and dangerous behavior are more accurate...this year, 11 teens died over the holiday. To our delight, most of the other campers in the area seemed to be black veiled women & children. We ran to investigate when we heard horns blaring and got caught up in a parade of Kuwaitis who were just as intrigued by us, as we were of them. The teens rode on the running board of our host's driver's jeep (something NO decent parent should allow!) while 8-10 other vehicles drove randomly on the sand with tons of kids and teens stacked on and hanging off. We exchanged friendly fire of silly string and foam under pressure which is sold for this occasion in copious amounts...I just happened to bring a bag along! Some people stopped for a close-up photo, others jumped off and ran over to give our kids Kuwait flags to wave. We followed behind with Molly in our vehicle taking photographs. Only one kid tried to spoil the fun by intentionally foaming Molly's camera. Otherwise, this was a sweet exchange of goodwill. They were happy to hear we were American and we were thrilled to get an inside glimpse of this desert-dweller life.

In the afternoon as we were eating in our "dining tent" we felt the wind whip up. The tea boy (this is what they call the men hired to take care of a place) began closing tent flaps to protect us from the blast but we had to experience our first sandstorm. As pins & needles lashed at my exposed skin I imagined hauling this whole crowd back home for the balance of the party, but thankfully, it died down to just a dusty haze.

Robert & Ethan were fantastic to share their Boy Scout skills and knowledge with us, they even made warm dump cake topped with sparklers over hot coals in the sand...yum! I pre-cooked BBQ beef and sides. Fireworks after dinner lit up our night sky and we sat around the fire with the tea boy communicating with us in broken English. The girls retreated to talk, Molly went to sleep in her own tent in preparation for her trip to the states, and Ethan had to pitch his own camping tent in spite of the many large tents at our disposal. The evening cooled off but it was quite cozy in our sleeping bags.

After a breakfast of fresh fruit & S'mores, we packed two car loads of gritty girls & gear and returned to Kuwait City. This was another memorable teenage party; I was very thankful Emily has managed to make such super sweet, smart, caring, quality friends. They clearly adore her, and seemed to tolerate her quirky family quite well:)

Voice of Truth

This morning I got a call that my dear, sweet friend who was wanting to help me with the work I do at Embassy shelters just lost her husband in yet another Kuwaiti car crash...two little boys, so far from home. Her husband worked for Chevron, they too are American. I've sobbed and yelled at God & spewed bitter angst at this country for this needless tragedy that keeps recurring. Finally, the refrain from this song quieted my spirit & reminded me that I have to choose my response.



But the Voice of truth tells me a different story

the Voice of truth says "do not be afraid!"

and the Voice of truth says "this is for My glory"

Out of all the voices calling out to me

I will choose to listen and believe the Voice of truth (Casting Crowns)



We had our 7 Habits class tonight at the Philippine Embassy shelter and I went with a heavy heart; the wonderful attache who had been so supportive of our work left suddenly and was replaced with a new guy (Mr. Vidal) who cancelled all ministry programs in his first week in office. When I sat down with the Welfare Officer tonight, I learned we were included in the "axe" but we would be allowed to finish our class next week, just no celebration/expo at the end, and no more courses.


I asked if I might meet with Mr. Videl's wife, who I'd met on another occasion. Yolly said she would try and arrange a meeting and suggested I bring him a proposal of what we do. Around 7:30pm, I was ushered upstairs to meet with Mrs. Vidal; I brought Becky with me and we were soon sitting in the Attache's office with BOTH of them, and Yolly was summoned as well. It was soon clear that he assumed we were part of those who were doing"evangelicalism" and did not realize our goals were the same as his goals for his Filipino "wards." He saw no value in the programs the church was offering; he only wanted to equip the ladies for life back in the Philippines. After much discussion, we were given the green light to continue our program, as well as his full support for the special celebration we were planning to recognize the ladies achievements and exhibit their work! Praise God for his favor, I am humbled once again.

When we returned to the women downstairs who were by then, setting up to work on the jewelry & rug making, there was much cheering & joy that we would be allowed to carry on. They are sad at the loss of the church services and we pray he will will have a change of heart. I feel an even greater responsibility now to realize we are the only Christians allowed access in a place so full of need. I feel woefully inadequate to be in this position but it's so clear to me that this is HIS work, I just get to tag along. He keeps bringing me people who are qualified in ways that far exceed my gifts. When I was tempted to panic over what seemed to be the loss of something dear to me, the Voice of Truth whispered "I love them even more, trust me."

Fear is such a powerful, ugly force and it can paralyze. It's tempting to think conditions here (traffic fatalities, low health standards, environmental pollutants, lack of good medical care, government corruption, etc.) are more threatening than other places but I know this is not true. Talking to my friends in the states, the economy is pretty scary too...not to mention life in Haiti, Chile, the list goes on. For my broken hearted friend here, and to my sisters scattered across Europe & the States, we just gotta listen to "The Voice of Truth."

Traitor for Tea??

I hosted a public meeting for Operation Hope today so we could inform supporters of upcoming projects and brainstorm ideas for community service. We need to focus on some fundraisers and hope to engage more volunteers. It was a scramble after finishing at the shelter last night at 9pm, baking for Ethan till 11pm, and waking up at 4:30am to get Robert & Ethan off to Qatar for their Boy Scout camporee. I decided to serve finger sandwiches, sweets, & tea; so I got out the miscellaneous china collection everyone seems to love. My plan for the meeting was to re-cast the vision of Operation Hope, then break people up into interest area to work on specific projects.

For some reason, all the new ladies came with me to discuss "Trash to Treasure." I had 3 educators (from India, Poland & the UK) and one young Kuwaiti lady who is starting a community website. After a few minutes it seemed obvious that everyone in the group was likely Christian and operating off the "same sheet of music," even though all faiths are perfectly welcome at this level in the organization. One lady attending did continue to bring in her desire to communicate Christ through our work.

After about 45 minutes I was summoned to the kitchen by a long time OH volunteer who wanted to caution me that the Kuwaiti lady was highly suspected of being a "CIB" ---a what? "like the CIA" she patiently explained...a spy! She went on to explain why the Christian community held her in such regard and it did really raise my naive eyebrows to my hairline! I went from disbelief to denial to shock and anger...if indeed it's true...which we will probably never know. The girl's story of adoption in Kuwait, loss of her Kuwaiti dad, and growing up in California where her mother "passed" (do they say that in CA?) sounded a bit irregular. Her conversion at age 9 when she met a Christian family who modeled the love of Christ to her sounded almost too perfect...at least in retrospect.

Did I host a bright young lady full of questions & interested in supporting OH, or did I just have a traitor to my tea party? "Freedom of Religion" seems to come in degrees. We're thankful for the privilege of worship and assembly here, but I cannot digest the idea that Robert has always acknowledged: "assume you are being watched." I always thought societies moved toward more freedoms, not less. It's obvious there are many in this country who'd be happy to tighten the controls and reverse progress by becoming even less tolerant of democratic ideas. There have been many commentaries in the papers recently about the press getting squeezed by new regulations. Both girls have encountered the textbook police at their school removing material they find that doesn't portray the Prophet how they like, or makes reference to something in history they want to pretend does not exist. Yet in the midst of this, deep dialogue on important matters continues to take place in the classrooms where young minds from all over the world wrestle with topics like ethics & morality in high school honors English class. My kids may have a chance to influence the thinking of the upcoming generation of ruling Kuwaitis...there are plenty from the royal families their classes.

Maid Service

The wonderful thing about having my neighbor's maids here was that I got to teach them to "knot." Anne made a purse, and Venge completed this beuatiful rug in about 5 days working a few hours a day. She had such an eye for color; from a pile of old sheets, a curtain, a shirt, and few scraps I had, she came up with this lovely piece of work. I am so proud of it! I asked if she wanted to keep it or sell it and she insisted she was making it for me. I had to get creative to find a way to give her the money I wanted her to have.

The best thing was being able to have a sample to show her "sisters" at the Filipino shelter. This inspired them so much to see how lovely rugs could be! This week I actually took Venge along to help me. She was so happy to be of service but so heavy hearted to see what women from her country were experiencing. She got to go up to the sleeping quarters where outsiders are not allowed; she said women were curled up trying to sleep everywhere, even on the stairs.

More beautiful, creative bags were presented to us again this week. Several women shared the mission statements they wrote since the last class and we were so moved by their ability to re-imagine a future so different from their present. Some of them were beginning to grasp that they could take these ideas and build a business for themselves once they return. They were asking very good questions and we want to be able to bring in a qualified speaker to address these topics. We told them about a place in Uganda where the women of the village began making these beads and selling jewelry and it has transformed the lives of the entire village. Hope is a very powerful thing.